We bet you know someone who always seems to be in a bad mood and has an ability to pass it on to people around him. They have a low tolerance for frustration and are used to reacting negatively when things do not go as expected. How can we defend ourselves against negativity and from these types of people who have pessimistic attitudes to life? Today we will review how you can defend yourself against negative people
Why are some people always in a bad mood?
There are people out there who live in a world of pessimism, a type of negativity that affects not only their own lives but the lives of others as well. Experts tell us that behind this veil of pessimism lies a constant irritability and a deep dissatisfaction with themselves. These people are victims of themselves because they spend the day wallowing in their own dissatisfaction with their experience of reality.
Although it may never turn into a real depression , they may suffer from low self-esteem , which manifests itself in apathy and condescension like a shield. There may be only one drop missing in the glass, but they see it as half empty. They have no confidence and are unable to enjoy the good things around them; they also have a special talent for spreading their negativity to others.
We often hear phrases like, “If you do, it’s not going to go well.” And “it’s not even worth trying, you’re not good at those kinds of things.” Even if we try to ignore them, it can still be discouraging, especially in situations like these:
- If the negative person is a close family member: Father, mother, partner …
- If the negative person has some power over us: Like a boss at work.
These are people in our lives that we need to see quite often and they can have a profound impact on our lives. It bothers and affects us deeply, forcing us to defend ourselves on a daily basis. We show you how to protect yourself from negative people:
Tips to defend against negative people
1. Set boundaries
Keep in mind that some of these people may be very close to you. Which means they will sooner or later have some sort of influence on you that is even easier for them on the days when your defenses are down. We have to be careful because their negative behavior and comments can undermine our self-esteem , leaving us hurt inside.
We need to set boundaries against the negative people. “Why would you give the presentation instead of such-and-such?”, “I give the presentation because I think I’m capable of it.”, “How can you look at him / her at all? “They are too attractive for you.” And “I check them out because I’m worth the same as everyone else and I have a right to be happy.”
We need to set boundaries for these types of people. They always intend to do harm with their comments.
2. Make it clear that they are the ones who have the problem
This is difficult. Indifference and low self-esteem always block a negative person from enjoying the things in life. Show them that they are wrong, and most of all, that you are not like them. Smile at their negative comments and tell them something like, “ it only succeeds right for positive people. Only positive people can really appreciate what it means to be alive. “
Sometimes envy creeps behind these feelings of mistrust. It is always good to show them that their perception of reality only brings them problems. Unhappy people, this is how you should learn to see them. Let them have no influence on you, at all.
3. Be assertive.
There is nothing better than being assertive in defending ourselves against those who try to hurt us. You should always show what it is you want for yourself. That what you want most of all is simply to be happy, to live your life and show everyone that you are capable of everything you undertake.
Listening to negativity like this brings you nowhere: “It’s not worth it,” “You can not do it,” “It will not work.” Life is a learning experience and you will occasionally make mistakes, but you can go back and finish what you started. You have to be assertive, say out loud what you want. You need to set boundaries against negative people and not show fear. Negative people are the ones who are scared, not you.
It is important to open our emotional umbrellas to protect ourselves from these all too common personalities. If possible, it may be worth trying to help them, by showing them that it takes a more optimistic view to become happy. We need to raise our self-esteem and remember that we all have the right to happiness and that it is in our power to achieve, so let’s start today!